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Welcome to " Mental health" talk with Tiana Hope you had a great day Today, we will be talking about "Direction" One of humans biggest and longest standing fear is being stagnant but direction is so much important than speed, Many are going nowhere fast. Do not be afraid of what looks like a total destruction, nothing is meant to last. You are allowed to leave anything or anyone that dims your light instead of making you shine better. Leaving opens a new door for change,growth, opportunities and redemption for you. You are even allowed to leave the old you behind and reinvent yourself. Know that you can start late, look different, be uncertain, start over and still succeed. You are just one decision away from a new beginning. I.G handle: Khaleesi_tiana                    Tiana.adeola Twitter:       Khaleesi _tiana

Welcome to " Mental health" talk with Tiana Hope you had a great day Today, we will be talking about "winning the war within" I know it seems like things will never get better and you feel like you are stuck in your current situation. Life has seemed more of a battle than a blessing lately, and every time you finally seem to make a breakthrough, life only seems to knock you back down. Everyday, you wake up, you go to war. Every morning, it is not your clothes you wear but armor. When you speak, it is not your words you use but a battle cry. That is what it feels like every morning you wake up, on the day you are not doing too well mentally, on the day your mind is tired and your spirit is broken. It is like you are a soldier going to war, trying hard to conceal your feelings, trying to convince people it's not so hard to be at work, in school, in your training center doing the 'normal' thing. And some days, you lose. Some mornings it is the depre...

Welcome to " Mental health" talk with Tiana Hope you had a great day.. These past weeks have been a rough ride for me and all I could think about is getting through your 20s and how not to ruin it. You ruin your 20s by taking that job that doesn't fulfill or inspire you in order to pay bills and then forget to leave. You ruin your 20s by dating someone who doesn't challenge or excite you and stay with them because it's easier than being single. You ruin your 20s when you get the education that your parents wanted you to get and ignore the education (Institutional or experiential) that you always wanted to get. By staying in one place when all you wanna do is explore. By becoming so obsessed with saving money that you forget to invest in the life that is quickly passing you by. By becoming so attached to any part of your identity that you forget you are allowed to experiment, grow and change . By basing majority of your decisions on the fear of rejectio...

Welcome to " Mental health" talk with Tiana Hope you had a great day Today, we will be talking about "breaking away from societal norms" In a world trying to make you believe that it is better to be closed, be nice. Be considerate. Be compassionate. Be the bigger person. Be tolerant. Be stronger than your heartbreak, your past and your pain. Be someone who knows how to love no matter how many times love has failed you. Be someone who knows how to be kind to a world that's known for being unkind. In a world teaching you to be aloof, unattached and distant, be brave, vulnerable, attentive. Be the one who cares more. Be the one who says "I love you" first. Be the one who tries instead of the one who wonders what could have been. Be the one who knows how to live with a few bruises from getting knocked down instead of the one who is afraid of getting hurt and misses out on all the fun. In a world trying to tell you to live a lie, live the truth. Li...

Welcome to " Mental health" talk with Tiana Hope you had a great day Today, we will be talking about "going through the motions and not giving up". I know there are days where you just want to completely breakdown. Days where you wonder if you can even find the strength to keep fighting because you are exhausted. But you keep it together, you smile and carry on like everything inside isn't breaking. You help others without thinking to ask for help yourself. You don't want to seem like a burden. I know you are hurting. And I don't know what it is you're going through exactly. Maybe it's a break up. Maybe it's work or school or a million other things. People demand a lot from you and you never let anyone down. You never disappoint them. You burst your ass  to appease people who don't even say thank you. That takes strength. So I want to say thank you on behalf of those who don't appreciate what you do for them. I want to sho...

Welcome to " Mental health" talk with Tiana Today, we will be talking about "Loneliness" There are two types of loneliness, the good and the bad.. I grew up alone on most days but the good type of loneliness. Let me give you a little insight about the destructive kind of loneliness. Loneliness can be hard , It makes you think you will be alone forever. Sometimes you get so used to it that you forget there is a life waiting for you to love it. Sometimes it's safer than stepping out and getting hurt. But that's not the good kind of loneliness, that's the destructive kind. Then there is the good type of loneliness, this is a side of loneliness that can be empowering. A kind of loneliness that can actually save you from toxic people and situations. This is a side of loneliness you will only understand when you try to make loneliness a friend rather than an enemy. When loneliness becomes your friend, you are not afraid of standing alone. You are not...

Welcome to " Mental health" talk with Tiana Today, we will be talking about "You" Dear human, Break free from your limitations, Stop the comparison game, Stop doubting yourself, Stop the psychoanalysis, People will always be better than you but you are best at your best, Thank God for your small wins, because there are better days ahead. Dear human, Don't trade God's timing for your own deadline. Trust God's timing with your life,you never know what you are being protected from or prepared for. Stop seeking approval from men to run a God-given vision Just run and if you fall, God is more than willing to get you back up again. Dear human, Don't go dimming your light because their eyes can't handle the shine. Stop seeking validation Your allegiance is to your peace of mind not their opinion of you. Dear human, You can be woke without being rude, You can disagree without being condescending, You can object without being disr...

Welcome to " Mental health" talk with Tiana Hope you had a great day Today, we will be talking about Love. Love is just a word until someone comes along and gives it meaning. There are different types of love Love of children Love of self Love of God Love of a partner All of them have a different shape But all of them is the same in the end It's about sensitivity, it's about passion It's about unconditional giving of self to another person And there's love of humanity That's the love that is right now needed most Love of humanity and Self love But in everything, in all of that love, there is a soul. 20 things you should know about "Love" before the age of 20. 1. Self-love should form the foundation for every other love in your life. How can you be capable of loving someone else before you learn to fall in love with all the broken parts of yourself that you hide from the world? 2. Give yourself the love that you hold inside ...

Welcome to " Mental health" talk with Tiana Hope you had a great day Today, we will be talking about "Death, Grief and Letting go" Death is one of the few surest thing in the world, we are never quite ready for it: a phone call, a text message,you are surfing the web and boom we find out that someone died. Whether the person was dear to us or to someone we don't really know well, or a public figure, we probably aren’t very well prepared to deal with the situation. Sadly, day-to-day life doesn’t teach us what to do when a loved one dies. The knowledge you acquire from school does not help with it either. Yet how we react to the death of someone close to us or console someone who has lost a friend or a relative can go a long way in bringing comfort and closure. In either situation, there are things that can help. There are many ironies when somebody dies. First of all, “the person you need most to help you through this experience is the person who just ...

Welcome to " Mental health" talk with Tiana Hope you had a great day Today, we will be talking about "settling" What does it mean to settle? Settling is the act of not being able to satisfy your need or want and choosing someone or something of lower standard or value. Are you really happy or comfortable with whatever you are holding onto or into? Most likely no Look around you, how many people do you think are settling? Probably a high percentage. People settle into okay jobs, okay friendships, okay relationships and an okay life, because okay is comfortable. Okay pays the bills, it provides a warm bed at night. Some people are fine with okay and guess what that's okay. But okay is not thrilling, okay is boring, it is not life-changing. This is to every human who has tried a little too hard. The one's who are told there vulnerability is a weakness. To the ones who think they are flawed This is to everyone who has ever settled and accepted le...

Welcome to " Mental health" talk with Tiana Hope you had a great day Today, we will be talking about Insecurities. Breaking news: all your favorites are problematic, flawed and entirely human no matter what pedestal you put them on. And this is totally okay because most of them are trying every day to be better people. Dear human, It's okay to be imperfect, it's okay to have struggles, But it's not okay to continue to drown yourself in them. Your insecurities were never yours to begin with A beautiful, fierce soul you once had. It's so true. All of the dislikes/flaws you have about yourself are the result of what society has pushed onto you. It's time to release them and fully love yourself.. Own your shortcomings and weakness and never be vulnerable again We all suck at shit but being insecure and hiding it is the real issue Speak about the things you are most afraid of, embrace it, it becomes a strength not a weakness. A reminder tha...

Welcome to " Mental health" talk with Tiana Hope you had a great day Today, we will be talking about "Glowing and Growing through your 20s" This is the era when you have to make moves to be great but also want to chill. A lot of people want to have their life figured out by 25. For some, it’s the best time of your life ,at least that’s what you’ll remember when you look back in your 40s. For others, it can be a decade of heartache and hard times. No matter the experience, your 20s are always a time of change and adventure. This period of your life will instill a lot of fear in you. In your head right now, you think that by 25 you will have your life figured out. You will have your dream job, and you will not have to depend on anyone anymore to support you. .Fast forward five years, and you are nowhere near the place you thought you would be at 25. You always told yourself you would give up and move on to a different career path if you hadn’t made it by 25,...

Welcome to " Mental health" talk with Tiana Hope you had a great day Today, we will be talking about "Letting go" Letting go means being willing to allow life to carry you to a new place, even a deeper more true rendition of self. Do not be afraid of what looks like a total destruction, nothing is meant to last. You are allowed to quit that job you hate even if the society tells you not to and you are allowed to search for something that makes you look forward to tomorrow and the rest of your life. You are allowed to do anything that brings Peace of mind, good energy to your life and wellbeing. You are allowed to forgive yourself for your biggest and smallest mistakes, and you are allowed to be kind to yourself. You are allowed to look in the mirror and actually like the person you see. You are allowed to leave someone you love if they are treating you badly, you are allowed to put yourself first if you are settling, and you are allowed to walk away when ...

Welcome to " Mental health" talk with Tiana. Hope you had a great day? Today, we will be talking about "HOPE" I hope you find acceptance, the kind that quiets the voice inside of you that tells you that you are not good enough. I hope you forgive yourself for the mistakes you have made, for the past you keep alive inside of you. I hope you learn to let go- of the things you had to do in order to heal or to grow, to survive. You are the best thing that has happened to the universe, you are human. I hope you find the kind of moments that take your breath away. The kind of moments that change you, that brings you happiness. I hope you live and not survive. Truly, I hope you don't hold back. There is so much to explore in this world. I hope you find the kind of happiness that exists in your own term, I hope you truly take time to figure out what moves you, what encourages your soul, mind,  what you deeply crave from life and I hope you have the courage to c...

I welcome you to this session of mental health talk Hope you had a wonderful week, today we will be discussing depression. “IF YOU KNOW SOMEONE WHO’S DEPRESSED, PLEASE RESOLVE NEVER TO ASK THEM WHY. DEPRESSION ISN’T A STRAIGHTFORWARD RESPONSE TO A BAD SITUATION; DEPRESSION JUST IS, LIKE THE WEATHER. TRY TO UNDERSTAND THE BLACKNESS, LETHARGY, HOPELESSNESS, AND LONELINESS THEY’RE GOING THROUGH. BE THERE FOR THEM WHEN THEY COME THROUGH THE OTHER SIDE. IT’S HARD TO BE A FRIEND TO SOMEONE WHO’S DEPRESSED, BUT IT IS ONE OF THE KINDEST, NOBLEST, AND BEST THINGS YOU WILL EVER DO.” Glamorized , and misunderstood, depression is not fully recognized as a mental illness across the globe. Although studies inform the mass that depression stems from a biological disposition, it is mocked and minimized. Often when a friend or loved one reveals to us that they are struggling with depression, we have been taught in our society to form conclusions and solve their problems. We believe we are helpin...

I officially welcome you to the mental health talk with Tiana. First, let's talk about the meaning of mental health- Mental health is a person’s condition with regard to their psychological and emotional well-being. Mental health includes "subjective well-being, perceived self-efficacy, autonomy, competence, inter-generational dependence, and self-actualization of one's intellectual and emotional potential, among others. A person struggling with their mental health may experience this because of stress, loneliness, depression, anxiety, relationship problems, death of a loved one, suicidal thoughts, grief, addiction, ADHD, various mood disorders, or other mental illnesses of varying degrees. Mental health is a socially constructed and socially defined concept; that is, different societies, groups, cultures, institutions and professions have very different ways of conceptualizing its nature and causes, determining what is mentally healthy, and deciding what interventi...