Grief & Letting go : MENTAL HEALTH TALK WITH TIANA

Welcome to " Mental health" talk with Tiana
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Today, we will be talking about "Death, Grief and Letting go"
Death is one of the few surest thing in the world, we are never quite ready for it: a phone call, a text message,you are surfing the web and boom we find out that someone died. Whether the person was dear to us or to someone we don't really know well, or a public figure, we probably aren’t very well prepared to deal with the situation.

Sadly, day-to-day life doesn’t teach us what to do when a loved one dies. The knowledge you acquire from school does not help with it either. Yet how we react to the death of someone close to us or console someone who has lost a friend or a relative can go a long way in bringing comfort and closure. In either situation, there are things that can help.
There are many ironies when somebody dies. First of all, “the person you need most to help you through this experience is the person who just died.”
One of the most important thing, a grieving person can do, is to be able to talk about their loved one. They need to revisit the relationship they had with this person. The loss can leave a very big hole in their life, yet others often feel uncomfortable talking about it, thus deepening the sense of isolation and loneliness.
Death is a part of life, and this needs to be recognized and accepted. Dealing with it is nevertheless harder than most people imagine. More than a few have done everything possible to cheat death or prolong a suffering life because they haven’t prepared themselves for the reality that this life will come to an end. Even if people have it settled in their minds that death is inevitable, they probably don’t accept it when they lose someone and they have no idea how long their road to recovery will be.
Grief is funny, you desperately want it to go away, most times, all you want is to feel better, normal, whatever normal may mean to you. Yet the simplicity of a "normal" existence seem unfathomable, impossible even. And other days you just want to feel every emotion.
Grieving in stages
Everyone who has lost a loved one will go through various stages of grief. But while various studies may imply that every bereaved person goes through a nearly identical process and is therefore necessarily at some level of dysfunction, this isn’t true. Some people don’t go through all the stages of grief that various books identify.
Prolonged sadness, lack of focus and drive,trouble sleeping are some of the symptoms a grieving person may experience at various stages. You will have good and bad days, this is part of the healing process.
Denial is also an aspect of grieving, accepting the reality of death isn’t always easy or immediate. A grieving person of any age may cope for a while by denying the event that resulted in the end of their loved one’s life. Eventually, of course, the reality becomes painfully clear and results in acceptance.
If the one who is left behind is alone for much of the grieving period, depression can become a troublesome companion. The feeling of hopelessness. Anyone dealing with depression as part of the grieving process will find that the line between depression and anger can easily be obscured. It isn’t uncommon to alternate between the two.
The best help anyone can offer during this period is to listen- and then to listen some more.
GIVE IT TIME
Emotions will continue to ebb and flow as those who are grieving progress through the healing process. It is important that they recognize this and adjust their timeframe for getting back to “normal". Taking some time off can be very beneficial.
Time does heal wounds. In the meantime, ups and downs are completely normal. Those who are grieving may alternate between various emotions and may do things that surprise both themselves and those around them, but eventually they will get through this very difficult time and come to a place of acceptance. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
From the Bible perspective
"There is a time for everything, a season for every activity under heaven. A time to be born and a time to die. .A time to cry and a time to laugh. A time to grieve and a time to dance.”
ECCLESIASTES 3:1–2, 4
Let them go with love
You have to let go at some point in order to move forward, to let go doesn't mean you forget or go on with your life as if there passing meant little to you. Turning their passing into something lasting and meaningful.
I know there are a lot of people out there going through the grieving stages- I just want you to know you are the strongest people I know, you will survive this battle also.
You are doing just fine, you are more than enough.
You are important, loved and needed.
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